Shading seems to be the trend that has followed the growth of Reality TV. Shade: acting in a casual or disrespectful manner towards someone/dissing a friend. This takes us back to asking the question, "what about your friends?" Although it's reality TV, what do the actions of our Black female Reality stars say about how Black women operate as friends, business women, mothers, sistahs and everyday people?
Do the perceptions of Black women in their roles on Reality TV shows effect how people perceive or interact with Black women in real life? Perhaps it does, but the majority of those perceptions come from ideals, thoughts and beliefs that are already embedded into a person from racial, economic and religious influences. It's the way of our society. You have The Braxtons, successful Black women singers, Cutting in in the ATL, successful Black women Beauticians and business owners, Love & Hip Hop Atlanta, black mothers, entrepreneurs, music artist, Married to Medicine and the list goes on. . .
Does the shade of reality TV keep us from embracing the positive perceptions of Black women? It's something to consider. Trees provide shade. It's an expectation that a tree will provide shade from the light of the sun as well as the heat from the sun rays. Does that make shade a bad thing? It's often needed and enjoyed; just like on the reality TV shows.
Here's final thoughts. Everything in life requires balance. Let's focus on the positive that reality TV shows offer, embrace the lessons they present, enjoy the journey of the women we get to see doing their thing and celebrate that Black women, all different brown shades, different family upbringings, different beliefs and different presentations of how they walk this journey call life can be celebrated. I'm not condoning the violence that is shown, or the poor choices, but that is reality. People mess up. People make bad decisions. What we should always remember is that what determines destiny is not in our ability to control, but our ability to follow.
There's nothing that perceptions or opinions can change about fate.