Monday, May 16, 2016

Remorseful Reasoning

Just because you say "I'm Sorry" doesn't mean that you've corrected your actions for it not to happen again. As I was reading Bishop Joseph Walker's book, "Reset", he wrote something that opened my eyes instantly to many behaviors I've seen myself display. "Remorse is not conviction!" In the heat of the moment, we may act out on impulse and afterwards feel remorseful. 
What does this look like? 

If you get into a heated argument or physical altercation with someone and after the situation you say, "Dang, I'm sorry for (insert your action here) BUT "you" shouldn't have (insert excuse here), you're simply remorseful. This doesn't mean that you've put thought into correcting your actions . Remorse allows us to be apologetic but it doesn't free us our reasoning.

Sound reasoning is so important to our decision making. It shows how mature we are in our daily walks of life. Think back to your first job. Most of us were so excited to make money that we spent it as soon as that check was signed for or as soon as the directs deposit hit. But as life changes, so should we. We should be seeing ourselves now, as time as gone by, being a little more wiser with our decisions. As we experience life, we have to focus more attention on what we can control; which is ourselves. You can't change anyone else, but you can inspire, influence and motivate them to think, live and act differently through your actions, your lifestyle.  

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