We're all guilty of it. Probably the most played game daily is the "Blame Game!" The game requires a goal, an issue, a fall guy, a victim and a villain; which one are you?
The Blame Game is one of our biggest distractions. It reduces the rate of accountability in our lives. Look at it from the lenses of those who always fall victim to the actions of others. For example, if the church and city argue back and forth about an abandoned area that's a safety concern for youth, what happens back in forth in an argument? The city blames the church for not doing something, the church responds blaming the city and it continues on to hopefully a resolve is found. However, as the blame game is being played, who is feeling the majority of the impact? The youth! Our children become victims to the lack of accountability that adults uphold and display for themselves first and then others.
Tag, you're it! The best way to win at Blame Game is start with holding yourself accountable. We all play a role in everything in our lives; good, bad or indifferent. We have to begin with eliminating excuses. "I'm this way because of ... ", "I've always done it like this so ..., "It's not my fault because ..."
A) Remember the Man in the Mirror
It starts with you! The only thing that we can control, is ourselves. Spending less time focusing on the how's and why's of what other people are doing allows for us to grow and be better. Stop using other people's actions as an excuse for yours.
B) Take Ownership of It!
Everyone wants higher positions, more money, titles, power and a to boss, but do we really want to take ownership of it all? Accountability begins with us. We have to take ownership of the things that we do and speak.